I have been trying for 1 year and a half to get over a breakup with a guy I thought was everything I wanted. I live in a small town and am scared to go anywhere, becasuse immediatly after ending things with me, he has a new girlfriend (his brothers ex actually-to his brothers disgust) and seems to be quite content to be selfish and happy. I want my own happiness but can't let him and the vindictive thoughts go and don't seem to know how to meet new people and move on. Any help?

Originally Posted by: ktybubs

I have been trying for 1 year and a half to get over a breakup with a guy I thought was everything I wanted. I live in a small town and am scared to go anywhere, becasuse immediatly after ending things with me, he has a new girlfriend (his brothers ex actually-to his brothers disgust) and seems to be quite content to be selfish and happy. I want my own happiness but can't let him and the vindictive thoughts go and don't seem to know how to meet new people and move on. Any help?

Solution?
Margaritas!!!
I can relate in a way, except my now ex ran off with my best friend.
It took me a good year to get over the betrayal of them both.
But i have, and i think that enjoying yourself is the best possible solution.
Do the things in life, you've always wanted to do. As they say, the sky is the limit, and whether you think so or not, anything is possible.

Originally Posted by: ktybubs

I have been trying for 1 year and a half to get over a breakup with a guy I thought was everything I wanted. I live in a small town and am scared to go anywhere, becasuse immediatly after ending things with me, he has a new girlfriend (his brothers ex actually-to his brothers disgust) and seems to be quite content to be selfish and happy. I want my own happiness but can't let him and the vindictive thoughts go and don't seem to know how to meet new people and move on. Any help?

If he can find someone else within such a time, what good does he still have? You have to learn to let go of him, & e past... I have been thru a bad break up be4 as well. It's alrdy a yr+. time for you to move on with Life. It might be difficult initially, but definately not impossible, girl. You deserve someone who love, respect and appreciate you. Live Life to the fullest, you really wouldnt know what lies ahead for you till u explore Life! :)

Originally Posted by: ktybubs

I have been trying for 1 year and a half to get over a breakup with a guy I thought was everything I wanted. I live in a small town and am scared to go anywhere, becasuse immediatly after ending things with me, he has a new girlfriend (his brothers ex actually-to his brothers disgust) and seems to be quite content to be selfish and happy. I want my own happiness but can't let him and the vindictive thoughts go and don't seem to know how to meet new people and move on. Any help?

I understand how you would feel being stuck in a small town with your ex-boyfriend. But if there's one thing for certain it's that you cannot let your life be ruined by some guy, even if you did think that he was someone special.
The best thing to do is focus on something you've really wanted to achieve to get your mind off your ex..whether it's your work, studies, a new hobbie. It may sound easier said than done, but you're not going to get anywhere dwelling on the past.

It is hard if you thought he was the one. But if you can't let him go then you will waste your time. I'm going through the similar experinece and what I do is believe in me and trying lots of different stuff which I chose not do before. One door closes and now another one open for me. Believe me there is someone out there waiting for you.

My heart goes out to you, but you MUST stop letting this loser rule your life. He obviously doesn't have much sympathy for other people's feelings - is he really such a loss? Take a deep breath, look straight ahead and start living YOUR life. Make sure you are doing the things you really want to and don't avoid doing stuff that could make you happy, just in case you bump into him. And don't assume he is happy in the new relationship - even if he is. So what?!

Move away, go on a long holiday and get over him by finding someone else, it's the only way to do it!!